Saturday, December 13, 2008

In This Recession, Is Life Coaching A Waste Of Money?

Can we just be honest? Our economy is tanking and we are in a recession. There, I've said it. The truth is, all over the news and in the corporate world, we’re watching as thousands upon thousands of people are being laid off. Heck, you might even count yourself among those thousands who have recently been downsized, rightsized and are now facing long lineups at the unemployment line.

In today's economic unease, we tend to take a closer look at our expenses. It is easy to cut out the things we don't need, to categorize the important from the unimportant. So, is life coaching a waste of expense or is it an asset which can help you put collateral and ease into your finances?

Life coaching can help in many areas - you have seen this. When you get life coaching, the life coach can assist you in reaching your goals, usually in a quicker time than if you had taken the route yourself. This is an important consideration for many reasons. If we look at economic uncertainties, we find a few interesting points... Like, for instance, we find that some people still climb the ladder, while the majority has a hard time.


You have likely heard of the phrase “the rich get richer, while the poor get poorer”. In a recession, this becomes a phrase that is easily seen in our daily reality. This can work in our favor or not, depending on which side you find yourself. A recession can be a blessing or a curse, depending on how you choose to look at it. What I like to notice are the folks who make some of their biggest gains during a recession. The gains usually have someone behind the scenes - it could be a book that inspires an entrepreneur to great heights, or an article like this. More likely, it's a life coach who served, guided and championed the person toward achievement.

Whatever happens in this recession, one thing that is constant is that the economy WILL improve; it’s part of the world economic life cycle. But another, more relevant, certainty to you is that life coaching can often help keep you in top form so that you will perform at your best -irrespective of what is happening around you. And this is gold! Why? Because you will have struck out of the game of blaming external factors, such as a recession. Instead, you will have taken your life and future success into your own hands, and will have made a decision to succeed.

The choice is yours; the power is within YOU! Now how cool is that?

In Bliss,
Coach Sandy

Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

Sunday, November 30, 2008

What Advice Would You Give Your Future Self?





Have you ever wondered what you would tell your “past self” – perhaps five or ten years ago - if you had the opportunity? Common examples are things like:



  • Take better care of your teeth.
  • Don’t start a relationship with…
  • Change your major to…
  • Eat less junk/exercise more.
  • Don’t flunk your exams.
  • Don't take that job with...
Instead of getting you to think about the past and dredge up all those regrets and might-have-beens, I’m going to give you a more positive spin on this idea. I want you to imagine yourself, five years in the future – then write a letter to yourself as you are today. You can just think this through, but it’s much more powerful to write it down.

Here are some areas where your future-self may need to have a firm word with your present-self:

Career
Can you see yourself in the same career in five years’ time? If that thought makes you think of five long years of stress and boredom, it’s time to start researching a career change. If you’d like to be in the same career but at a higher level, are you actively working towards a promotion, or just assuming that it will happen? Will your current actions put you in the position you want to be in, or will they mean that you never progress from where you currently are?

Education
If you’re in school or college, are you truly investing in your future – or are you just enjoying yourself and blowing off classes whenever you can? Alternatively, are you taking on so many extra credit courses that you’re risking burnout? Whatever your attitude towards your education, stop and think about where you’re likely to be in five years time if you carry on as you currently are doing. Will you be in the position you want?

Finances
Are you currently in debt? Do you have the level of savings that you’d like – maybe an emergency fund, or a bigger pot of cash for traveling? Consider how the way you’re treating money today will impact you in five years. If you keep buying on credit, leaving bills unopened and refusing to get on top of your finances, you’re going to make things very hard for your future-self. But if you start saving just $10 a week today, that’s $2,600 (plus interest!) in five years time.

Habits
What good habits would you like to have in your life? What bad habits would you like to get rid of? Unless you’re taking active steps to build the former and conquer the latter, you’re unlikely to make any progress. If you want to cut down your coffee habit or quit smoking, don’t keep putting it off until next week, next month, or next year. Because five years down the line, your future-self is looking back and wishing that you’d started working on those habits today.

Health
Do you eat a healthy diet? Do you exercise on a regular basis? Is your body in good shape and likely to survive the next five years without any significant health problems? Be honest with yourself: if you’re overweight, why not start taking action now? Even if it takes you five years to reach a healthy weight, those five years are going to go by anyway. Just ask your future-self (who wishes you’d start your healthier lifestyle right now).

Opportunities
Something many people regret in life is not taking advantage of the chances that they have. Are you missing out on any opportunities at the moment? Is your future-self looking back and telling you to sign up for that course, take that class, reach out to that potential new friend, or volunteer for that big project at work? A good place to look for the opportunities you’re missing is to think about anything you’re afraid to try, or afraid to start. Those are the things that future-self wishes you’d do!

Relationships
Do you have friends or relatives who sap your energy, motivation and zest for life, every time you see them? Your future-self is going to struggle on with those vampiric relationships for the next five years unless you take action to change or end them right now. Or do you have old friends who you keep meaning to get back in touch with? Guess what – you’ll probably still be meaning to in five years’ time, if you don’t get moving, so start looking up those phone numbers or email addresses today.

Take fifteen minutes today, and write a letter from the perspective of your future-self, speaking to your present-self. What do you need to be told? Where in your life do you need to make changes?

Written on 11/17/2008 by Ali Hale. Ali runs Alpha Student, a blog packed with academic, financial and practical tips to help students get the most out of their time at university.


In Bliss,
Coach Sandy


Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

How Long Could You Survive Without A Job?



If you lost your job tomorrow, how long would you survive solely on your savings account?

However secure you think your job is, don’t assume that you’re immune to the current economic situation; good employees lose good jobs in bad times. Over the past several months, we’ve seen huge companies, once considered unbreakable, disappear overnight.

I am not going to tell you that I have a solution to our global economic dilemma. However, I am going to say that being laid-off while prepared is a lot better than being caught off guard. So, while I'm not advocating getting paranoid and worrying that the sky is falling, you should work to prepare yourself a little. What is the contingency plan?Here are four steps to get you started.

Keep Your Resume Up To Date

This is something simple you could sort out today – making sure you have an accurate, fully up-to-date resume. If the last time you wrote a resume was when you applied for your current job, it might need a lot of updating. Check out dates and job titles, and think about the “soft skills” you want to include. Get someone to proof-read your resume for you. Make sure that it’s as well formatted and displayed as possible. And double-check your contact details; even if you haven’t moved, chances are you’ve changed your cell number or email address in the past few years.The last thing you want on your plate when bad news arrives is having to sort out your resume, so get into the habit of updating it on a regular basis – I've always recommended that it be updated at least every year, on your birthday.

Build Up An Emergency Fund

If you have a meager savings account, start building up an emergency fund. This is something you only dip into in the case of dire need: being laid-off, medical crisis, family disaster. Even if you can only save $20 a week, that’ll be $520 after six months (and that’s without interest) - enough to make a significant difference if times get really tight. Ideally, you want to get your emergency fund big enough to cover two or three months of expenses. Then, if you’re laid off, you have time to hunt for a new job without your family being in financial crisis.

Minimize Your Expenses Now

Cutting down on your outgoings now has two benefits:

  1. You’ll start saving money which you can put into your emergency fund.

  2. You won’t be paying unnecessary fees if you do lose your job.

If you have gym membership that you rarely or never use, cancel it. Most health clubs require a minimum of one month’s notice when you want to cancel – you don’t want to be hit with that steep monthly bill if you’re unemployed. Even if you are a regular gym-goer, look around for cheaper alternatives.

Hunt for a better deal on any forms of insurance you have.

Look at household bills, and see what’s costing a lot. Can you cut down on phone calls during peak hours or use Skype as an alternative? Are you paying for an expensive monthly plan on your cell phone when you only use half the minutes?

Don’t forget small, daily, expenses which can add up to more than the monthly ones. Brown-bag your lunch to take into work, rather than buying a sandwich every day. Think about the costs of those bits and pieces you buy on impulse (goodbye daily venti soy lattés!).

Build a Second Income Stream

Once you’ve sorted out your resume, started your emergency fund, and cut down on your expenses, you should be in a pretty good position to weather financial storms. However, this fourth tip allows you to actively get extra money – it could even grow to enough to replace your current job.

Starting a second income stream means finding a way to make some money, however little, outside your primary job. That could mean almost anything: running a stall at a Saturday market, making craft items with your kids and selling them on ebay (selling the craft items, that is, not the kids…), creating a website that attracts lots of readers and earns money through advertising, starting a neighborhood dog-walking service, etc.

Good places to start building a second income stream are your hobbies and interests. What do you do in your spare time? How might you make money from it? Think creatively!The internet has opened up a huge number of ways for everyday folks to make good money.

So what about you? How long could you survive if you lost your job tomorrow? What steps are you actively taking – or are you going to take – in order to make your financial situation secure, even with a temporary loss of income?

In Bliss,
Coach Sandy

Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

Reduce Stress Through Listening

Today's blog was written by Jillian Gregory, for LearnOutLoud.com, an online portal for educational and self-development audio and video material, which can be found at http://www.learnoutloud.com.


Is your "To-Do" list longer then the latest Harry Potter novel? Do you have to pick up the kids from school, work on several cases at work, or plan your next company meeting? Maybe you have to do some or all of the above. Dealing with stressful life situations like these has become common place in our modern speed of light society.

Through advances in technology and innovation in business practices we have become accustomed to dealing with more things at a quicker pace. Our patience has diminished as we pop minute meals into the microwave instead of taking time to create a home cooked meal. There are too many things you need to accomplish in the day to worry about whether your family meal was made by your hands or Betty Crocker’s.

Unfortunately the push to achieve more in a shorter period of time is detrimental to your overall health. Lack of sleep and poor eating habits of a stressed out worker can cause problems on the job, not to mention decreased fitness. It is crucial to your health and enjoyment of life to take a breather. Take time to enjoy life. Don’t let the everyday stresses distract you from the important aspects of life, whatever they may be in your situation.

How can I make time when I don’t have enough time to begin with? It’s all about priorities. Decreasing the amount of stress in your life should be a top priority. There are techniques you can integrate into your day which will quell stressful aspects of your life.

What are these valuable techniques? There are numerous stress reduction techniques and they are varied in nature. A great audio book to listen to is Life is Not a Stress Rehearsal by Loretta LaRoche. This audio book provides insights into slowing down your hectic life in a funny, manageable way. It is a great resource for anyone dealing with stress that would like to explore practical ways to reduce stress in their life.

Also check out How to Manage Stress Easily by Effective Learning Systems. This audio learning resource will help you to free yourself from negative feelings and stressors that pervade your life. Another great audio book is Calm Your Mind by Matthew McKay. Matthew McKay presents four basic techniques you can engage in to reduce stress, calm your mind, and center your soul.

Follow the scientifically proven effectiveness of the techniques presented in Stress Reduction and Creative Meditations for Work and Career by Marc Allen. Listen to what thousands have learned about focusing on relaxation exercises each day. Another great audio resource is Living a Life of Inner Peace by Eckhart Tolle. This is a transformative talk by Eckhart Tolle that focuses on the effects of your state of presence.

Another great way to reduce stress is to make sure all of your uncompleted business tasks (or "open loops") are properly tracked. David Allen's Getting Things Done series is one of the best methodologies for this. His goal? To help you achieve a "Mind Like Water." Allen's audio titles include Getting Things Done, Ready for Anything and Nightingale-Conant title Getting Thigns Done Fast.

Other alternative stress reduction audio resources include A Guide to Alternative Self-Healing Techniques for Stress Reduction by Dr. William Collinge and Stress Relief by Michael Reed Gach. These audio books cover alternative methods such as acupuncture, yoga, and deep breathing. They offer a comprehensive alternative approach. And if you're interested in listening to a relaxing podcast to relieve stress take a listen to the Zencast Podcast by Zencast.org.

Relieve stress by listening to these priceless audio resources. Listen to them while you are cleaning the house, doing the laundry, or planning your next company meeting. Hearing the great advice and inspiration of stress experts will begin to reduce your stress level immediately.


In Bliss,
Coach Sandy


Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

Friday, October 31, 2008

Cuz This Is Thriller, Thriller Night!

In honour of Halloween (didn't I tell you it was my favourite holiday?)... here's a link to a classic video: Thriller.


In Bliss,
Coach Sandy

Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

Tuesday, October 28, 2008

Happy Halloween!


In honour of my favourite holiday EVER, I thought I would share some interesting tidbits about Halloween.

  • Orange and black are Halloween colors because orange is associated with the Fall harvest and black is associated with darkness and death.

  • Halloween was brought to North America by immigrants from Europe who would celebrate the harvest around a bonfire, share ghost stories, sing, dance and tell fortunes.

  • The ancient Celts thought that spirits and ghosts roamed the countryside on Halloween night. They began wearing masks and costumes to avoid being recognized as human.

  • Halloween candy sales average about 2 billion dollars annually in the United States.

  • Chocolate candy bars top the list as the most popular candy for trick-or-treaters with Snickers #1.

  • Halloween is the 2nd most commercially successful holiday, with Christmas being the first.

  • Black cats were once believed to be witch's familiars who protected their powers.

  • If you see a spider on Halloween, it is the spirit of a loved on watching over you.

  • The Ouija Board ended up outselling the game of Monopoly in its first full year at Salem. Over two million copies of the Ouija Board were shipped.

  • The mask used by Michael Meyers in the movie "Halloween" was actually William Shatner's mask painted white.

  • Halloween is on October 31st, the last day of the Celtic calendar. It was originally a pagan holiday, honoring the dead. Holloween was referred to as All Hallows Eve and dates back to over 2000 years ago.

  • There are no words in the dictionary that rhyme with orange, the color of pumpkin.

  • Samhainophobia is an intense fear of Halloween.

In (Wicked) Bliss,
Coach Sandy

Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

Saturday, October 25, 2008

Pay Attention To What's Important

It's easy to lose sight of what's important when you're working hard and juggling a million things.

To stay focused on the things that matter, you need to make time for reflection - time for thinking about your life, values, priorities, and where you are going.

Are you taking care of your physical health?

Are you happy?

Do you laugh enough?

How are your relationships with the people you care about?

As you ask yourself questions and reflect on what's important, you'll discover what changes you need to make so that your life feels more balanced and so you have time for the important things.

In The Artist's Way (1992), author Julia Cameron shares her self-styled spiritual path to creativity, which includes writing three "Morning Pages" a day on anything to help overcome our own internal censors. This incredible book is a must-read for anyone looking to unblock themselves and be more successful in Life.


In Bliss,
Coach Sandy

Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

Make Time For YOU

We all need time alone and time with people.


Alone time is good for your body and soul - it's a time to relax, reflect, and think about life and your day. It's a time to clear your head and be quiet with yourself. Your self.



  • Try to spend some time alone every day. Quiet time alone allows you to tune in to the present moment.



  • Spend your time alone doing something you enjoy, such as reading, taking a bath, or watching a sunrise. This isn't the time to fold the laundry or clean the house!



  • Don't feel guilty about relaxing. It's OK to just sit in a comfortable chair and unwind. And you know what else? The world won't end!


In Bliss,
Coach Sandy

Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

Plan Something To Look Forward To!

Want to know one of the secrets to feeling good?


Plan things to look forward to and you'll always be looking ahead with optimism!

  • Plan to meet a friend next week or month for lunch, dinner or a movie.

  • Plan a fun family trip for next summer.

  • Plan a way to celebrate an upcoming holiday or special occasion with the people you love.

  • Plan a play date with your child.

  • Plan to hike a mountain you've always dreamt of climbing, or to visit an old friend or grandparent you don't see often enough.

Feeling good takes planning and forethought. But when you plan things to look forward to, even the anticipation feels good. And don't we all want to feel good in the end?




In Bliss,
Coach Sandy

Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

Musical Musings

It's no accident that music is a feature of all human cultures. Music can entertain us, distract us from our worries, stimulate our brains, and help us relax.

Find the music that relaxes you and use it to reduce anxiety!

  • Listen to music on your commute home after a long day.

  • Remember the old mix tapes of yore? Why not assemble your own "feel good" music collection and play it when you need a lift or distraction?

  • Expand your music horizons by borrowing music from your local library or by searching and sampling the latest iTunes has to offer? I always like having a peek at friends' iPods to see what they're listening to.

  • Do you sing or play an instrument? Why not make your own music? Break out the guitar that's up in the attic gathering dust. Gather your friends and neighbors and form a garage band of your very own!


In Bliss,
Coach Sandy

Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

What do I want to be when I grow up?


Here's an interesting article from the Toronto Star I thought I would share. Many of my (adult) clients sheepishly come to me for help with finding out what they want to be when they grow up. This is pretty common in today's fast-paced world where we find ourselves on the ever-speeding treadmill of our high-powered careers, only to soon discover that we're no longer finding any satisfaction with our chosen paths.


Does this sound familiar? Are you confused about how to seek out a career that would make you happier than the one you currently have? If so, consider engaging the services of a Professional Coach - we're here to help you with such important transitions!


Enjoy the article.


In Bliss,
Coach Sandy

Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

Tuesday, September 2, 2008

Purpose

I love going to the theatre. A couple of weeks ago, I was lucky enough to catch a showing of the hilarious Broadway musical, Avenue Q, with a good friend of mine. We had been looking forward to seeing this “Sesame Street for grownups” show for months. I’ve had the soundtrack on permanent rotation in my car for about three years now, gleefully humming along to such catchy tunes as “It Sucks To Be Me” and “The Internet Is For Porn”. Ok, let me backtrack… For those of you who are not familiar with Avenue Q, it tells the story of Princeton, a bright-eyed college grad who comes to New York City with big dreams and a tiny bank account. He soon discovers that the only neighborhood in his price range is Avenue Q. His neighbors include Brian the out-of-work comedian and his Asian therapist fiancée Christmas Eve; Nicky the good-hearted slacker (reminiscent of Ernie) and his roommate Rod (Burt) -- a Republican investment banker who is grappling with his closeted homosexuality; an Internet porn addict called Trekkie Monster; and a very cute kindergarten teaching assistant named Kate. To top it all off, Gary Coleman is the building's superintendent. Yes, that Gary Coleman. Together, Princeton and his newfound friends struggle to find jobs, dates, and their ever-elusive purpose in life.

Purpose. As Princeton sings in one of his defining moments:


PURPOSE, IT'S THAT LITTLE FLAME THAT LIGHTS A FIRE UNDER YOUR ASS.


PURPOSE, IT KEEPS YOU GOING STRONG LIKE A CAR WITH A FULL TANK OF GAS.


EVERYONE ELSE HAS A PURPOSE. SO WHAT'S MINE?


I DON'T KNOW HOW I KNOW, BUT I'M GONNA FIND MY PURPOSE.


I DON'T KNOW WHERE I'M GONNA LOOK, BUT I'M GONNA FIND MY PURPOSE.


GOTTA FIND OUT, DON'T WANNA WAIT! GOT TO MAKE SURE THAT MY LIFE WILL BE GREAT!GOTTA FIND MY
PURPOSE BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE.


Many of us go through our lives wondering what our purpose is - our raison-d’être. Not our jobs or daily responsibilities, but the reason we were put here, how we want to live our lives.
Is it for Wealth?
Power?
Service?
Longevity?
Faith?
Family?
Virtue?
Happiness?
Fulfillment?
Comfort?
Contentment?
Integrity?

So why is it so important to define your purpose? Well, let’s put it this way, given the choice, would you rather float through a mundane life or would you prefer to get closer to the best possible life for you? Now I don’t know about you, but for me, the answer’s pretty obvious.


In Bliss,
Coach Sandy


Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

Wednesday, August 20, 2008

What Is Your Life Expectancy?


How healthy and active a life are you leading?


Take the following Life Expectancy Calculator to see what you're doing well, and what you could do differently to live a longer, healthier life.



In Bliss,
Coach Sandy

Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

Sunday, August 17, 2008

26 Ways To Make Someone Happy

Just thought I’d give all of you a nice list of things to think about. This isn’t an in-depth post, but more of a thought for the day — is there someone you’d like to make happy today?
Making others happy is one of the best ways to have a great day yourself. It can brighten the world around you.

This list is just to spark some ideas, and please note that not every item on this list is appropriate for every person in your life. I trust you to figure out which actions go with which people.

Make someone happy today!
  1. Smile.

  2. Help them carry something.

  3. Send a thank-you email.

  4. Call just to see how they’re doing.

  5. Give them flowers.

  6. Cook them a nice meal.

  7. Tell a joke and laugh your butts off.

  8. Give them a cherished book.

  9. Bake them cookies.

  10. Praise them publicly.

  11. Thank them for a job well done.

  12. Listen.

  13. Be there when they’re in need.

  14. Give a free hug.

  15. Spend time with them, having fun.

  16. Do errands or chores for them.

  17. Say I love you.

  18. Help them get ahead.

  19. Be proud of them.

  20. Babysit if they need it.

  21. House sit if they need it.

  22. Buy them movie tickets.

  23. Coffee. Mmmm.

  24. Secretly leave them thank you notes.

  25. Deliver a nice lunch to them when they’re having a rough day.

  26. Be happy yourself.


Any other ideas on how to make people happy?



In Bliss,
Coach Sandy


Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

Monday, August 11, 2008

Transformational Change


I love my dog. I love him so much, I call him my son. Happy is a 6 month old fluff ball of energy – all 5.20 lbs of him! He’s playful, funny, sweet and gentle. He loves to cuddle and get belly rubs. Whenever I hold him in my arms, he goes right for my face (and my earlobes in particular), and licks me with all his might. He also loves it when I plant sweet little kisses on his neck. He’s a ham. Have I mentioned that I love him?

I wasn’t always a dog lover though. In fact, I used to be deathly afraid of all animals. Like if I saw a dog walking on the same sidewalk, I would cross the street to the other side in order to avoid any contact. Getting over this clearly irrational fear of mine was always something I wanted to overcome. In 2001, I decided to vacation in beautiful Australia, the world’s sixth largest country and its largest island. Beautiful Australia, with its Great Barrier Reef, Outback, and the world’s largest monolith, Uluru (formerly known as Ayers Rock). But, as Bill Bryson wrote in “In a Sunburned Country”:


“(Australia) has more things that will kill you than anywhere else. Of the world’s 10 most poisonous snakes, all are Australian. Five of its creatures – the funnel web spider, box jellyfish, blue-ringed octopus, paralysis tick, and stonefish – are the most lethal of their type in the world. This is a country where even the fluffiest of caterpillars can lay you out with a toxic nip, where seashells will not just sting you but actually go for you. Pick up an innocuous cone shell from a Queensland beach, as innocent tourists are all too wont to do, and you will discover that the little fellow inside is not just astoundingly swift and testy but exceedingly venomous. If you are not stung or pronged to death in some unexpected manner, you may be fatally chomped by sharks or crocodiles, or carried helplessly out to sea by irresistible currents, or left to stagger to an unhappy death in the baking outback. It’s a tough place.”

I decided pretty early on in my Australian Adventure that I would use this trip to finally get over my fears. So, in typical Sandy fashion (read: “go big or go home”), I set out for some serious exposure therapy. I swam in the (shark infested) Great Barrier Reef. I fed kangaroos. I cuddled a koala. I stayed at questionable hostels whose showers and toilets were crawling with lizards and frogs, and whose outdoor eateries were feet away from wild dingoes. I even held a baby crocodile in my hand (and have the picture to prove it!). Like I said, go big or go home.


I look back on that trip with deep fondness and appreciation. If it hadn’t been for all the little risks I took back then, I would never have been ready to share my life with my sweet little guy, Happy. I would have missed out on his companionship, love and enthusiasm for life. Even though Happy has only been in my life for 5 months now, I cannot imagine my life without him.

Now I wouldn’t recommend this drastic change tactic of mine to everyone – in fact, it’s really important to know your own internal gage for change. Working with me as your Professional Coach, we can identify your own internal Change Speedometer, and together, we can set specific goals for positive transformation in your life.


In Bliss,
Coach Sandy

Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

Thursday, August 7, 2008

What's Your Spiritual Type?


I don't consider myself to be a religious person. Yes, I was brought up with certain traditions of my religion. We observed the major holidays and prayed before certain meals like many other families out there. Despite the great effort on the part of my family, I nevertheless have spent countless hours over the years studying religious practices of many other faiths. In search. Always on the lookout for something to resonate deep within me.

So far, I can say with certainty that I am "skeptically spiritual". I still follow some of the traditions of my original faith. Some. But I've also incorporated other practices that just make more sense to me. Meditation is one, for instance. There's something about it that's soothing to me - that brings me some semblance of inner peace. I suspect my spiritual journey is far from over - it will probably evolve over time as I move into life's different phases.

I guess that's part of the journey that is Life.

For those of you who are on a similar journey as I, why not try out an interesting quiz, simply called "What's Your Spiritual Type?"


In Bliss,
Coach Sandy

Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

Values: Peak Moment in Time

Integrity. Responsibility. Empowerment. Excellence. Community.

Those of you who have worked in a corporate environment have probably come across these and other similar core values that companies espouse.

But when was the last time you thought about your personal values – your own unique and individual essence?

Did you know that when you’re in touch with your personal values, you’re living your truth? That when you’re consistently honoring your values, your life becomes more fulfilling? The bottom line is that the clearer you are about what you value and believe in, the happier and more effective you will be.

If you’ve ever worked one on one with a professional coach, you will have noticed that we tend to be pretty passionate about helping our clients identify and more importantly establish ways to LIVE their core values. How do coaches help their clients gain a solid perspective on their values? Well, there are a host of values clarification techniques we use in order to allow clients to examine and articulate their values in a safe yet courageous environment.

To give you an idea of the type of work I do with my clients, I’d like to introduce you to one of the coaching techniques I use to help get to the core of my client’s values. This exercise, called “A Peak Moment In Time”, requires the client to think back to an especially poignant or rewarding moment in their life. A specific moment in time, within a specific timeframe. What was happening? Who was present? What was going on? More importantly, what were the values that you were honoring in that particular moment?

So I ask you… What core values are you guided by?


In Bliss,
Coach Sandy


Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

7 Secrets of Success...

I just found this gem on the internet and thought I would share it with you. Its author is unknown. Enjoy!


The 7 Secrets of Success...
I found the answers in my room.

Roof said: Aim high
Fan said: Be cool
Clock Said: Every minute is precious
Mirror said: Reflect before you act
Window said: See the world
Calendar said: Be up-to-date
Door said: Push hard to achieve your goals.



In Bliss,
Coach Sandy

Sandy Kiaizadeh
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Winning Career and Business Advice from Jack Welch


When Jack Welch stepped down as CEO of GE in 2000, he had succeeded in turning a $12 billion company into one of the largest and most admired corporations in the world - with a market value of about $500 billion. Pretty heady stuff.

But just how did he lead the way to such incredible change?


Mr. Welch had a very clear vision of a leader's role in the new economy. As he once wrote in a letter to shareholders:



"In the old culture, managers got their power from secret knowledge: profit margins, market share, and all that... In the new culture, the role of the leader is to express a vision, get buy-in, and implement it. That calls for open, caring relations with every employee, and face-to-face communication.
People who can't convincingly articulate a vision won't be successful."
Being a Professional Coach with a strong background in Human Resources, I can't help but say "I like the way this guy thinks!" Yes, he looks at the bottom line and the profit margins - he has to in order to lead a $500 billion global corporation. But how inspiring to see that he lead by example and believed in treating his human resources with openess, honesty and compassion.

Here's a great video interview Mr. Welch gave that speaks to his passionate beliefs on what it means to be a successful leader. Enjoy!




In Bliss,
Coach Sandy

Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

12 Famous Rules of Success


Steve Jobs is one of the most successful entrepreneurs of our generation. His success story is legendary:

He was put up for adoption at an early age. Dropping out of college after 6 months, he slept on friends’ floors and returned Coke bottles for 5 cent deposits to buy food. Eventually, he went on to start a little company by the name of Apple Computers, while that other incredible success story we all know as Bill Gates started Microsoft.

Mr. Jobs offered his 12 Famous Rules of Success to the 2005 graduating class of Stanford University. Inspiring words of wisdom from somebody in know. Here they are:

1. Do what you love to do.
Find your true passion. Do what you love to do a make a difference! The only way to do great work is to love what you do.

2. Be different.
Think different. "Better be a pirate than to join the navy."

3. Do your best.
Do your best at every job. No sleep! Success generates more success. So be hungry for it. Hire good people with a passion for success.

4. Make a SWOT analysis.
As soon as you join/start a company, make a list of strengths and weaknesses of yourself and your company on a piece of paper. Don't hesitate in throwing bad apples out of the company.

5. Be entrepreneurial.
Look for the next big thing. Find a set of ideas that need to be quickly and decisively acted upon and jump through that window. Sometimes the first step is the hardest one. Just take it! Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.

6. Start small, think big.
Don't worry about too many things at once. Take a handful of simple things to begin with, and then progress to more complex ones. Think about not just tomorrow, but the future.

7. Strive to become a market leader.
Own and control the primary technology in everything you do. If there's a better technology available, use it no matter if anyone else is not using it. Be the first, and make it an industry standard.

8. Focus on the outcome.
People judge you by your performance, so focus on the outcome. Be a yardstick of quality. Some people aren't used to an environment where excellence is expected. Advertise. If they don't know it, they won't buy your product. Pay attention to design. "We made the buttons on the screen lookso good you'll want to lick them”. Design is not just what it looks like and feels like. Design is how it works.

9. Ask for feedback.
Ask for feedback from people with diverse backgrounds. Each one will tell you one useful thing. If you're at the top of the chain, sometimes people won't give you honest feedback because they're afraid. In this case, disguise yourself, or get feedback from other sources. Focus on those who will use your product – listen to your customers first.

10. Innovate.
Innovation distinguishes a leader from a follower. Delegate, let other top executives do 50% of your routine work to be able to spend 50% your time on the new stuff. Say no to 1,000 things to make sure you don't get on the wrong track or try to do too much. Concentrate on really important creations and radicalinnovation. Hire people who want to make the best things in the world. You need a very product-oriented culture, even in a technology company. Lots of companies have tons of great engineers and smart people. But ultimately, there needs to be some gravitational force that pulls it all together.

11. Learn from failures.
Sometimes when you innovate, you make mistakes. It is best to admit them quickly, and get on with improving your other innovations.

12. Learn continually.
There's always "one more thing" to learn! Cross-pollinate ideas with others both within and outside your company. Learn from customers, competitors and partners. If you partner with someone whom you don't like, learn to like them – praise them and benefit from them. Learn to criticize your enemies openly, but honestly.


In Bliss,
Coach Sandy

Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

Making Sure Your Next Job Is the Best Fit

OK, so you’ve realized that it’s time for a career transition. Off you go into the job market – networking, interviewing, selling yourself and negotiating like mad. That’s great!

But whoa there, tiger! Let’s take a step back for a moment. How much time are you spending interviewing prospective employers? Are you following your due diligence to ensure you’re making the right move – finding the best job fit? I can’t count the number of times I’ve come across people who’ve gotten hooked into accepting a new job for all the wrong reasons and without having done all their homework.

So, with this in mind, here are the Top 4 Questions You Should Ask Yourself To Ensure Your Next Job Is The Best Fit:


1. Who's the Boss?
If you're knee deep in the interviewing process, you will likely be meeting your future supervisor at some point. Pay close attention to how well you get along with this person – she will hold the key to your success and happiness in that position. Ask her what her leadership style is like and what kind of employee she prefers to manage. If you’re lucky enough to have the opportunity to interview with other members of her reporting team (as part of a panel interview, for instance), ask them too! I once knew an individual who had asked this question during an interview, and got a disturbingly honest answer from the supervisor: “I don’t like to manage my employees; I don’t like them coming to me with any questions”. If this person had been searching for a mentoring type of relationship with her prospective supervisor, she would have been sorely disappointed and jaded as her employee. Thank goodness she had the good sense to ask this key questions beforehand to avoid such a pitfall!

2. Who Are Your Future Coworkers?
Some people hate their jobs but love their colleagues so much that it overrides any unhappiness they have about their daily duties. On the flip side, just as these folks can make your work life great, they can also make it miserable. Ask to meet your potential teammates before accepting any job offer. One of my own best job interviews involved going out for coffee with my potential colleagues. It was a wonderful way for me to get a first-hand sense of the group dynamics and whether I would fit in. There we were, sitting at a Starbucks, chatting it up easily. It also was a wonderful opportunity for me to investigate the leadership style! While these folks were great at trying to sell the job to me, I nevertheless tuned into the semi-discreet looks they shot each other prior to answering my all important “so… tell me what Bob is like as a manager…”. I still accepted the job, but at least I went in there with my eyes wide open. Listen to your gut and make your decision accordingly.

3. Yes, Yes – They Want You… But Do You Want Them?
Sure, it’s a great ego boost to be offered a job – after all, it’s like entering a competition in which you win first prize! But any reader of Eckhart Tolle would tell you not to let yourself be guided by your ego. Put it aside. Instead, remind yourself what it is that YOU are looking for in a new job… If you’ve worked with me as your Career Coach, you would have already completed lots of self-assessments that would have clarified your vision of your ideal career opportunity. Take those sheets out, and compare them with the job you’ve just been offered. How closely do they match? The closer the match, the better the job fit. Look before you leap!

4. Is This Job Just Right - or Right For Now?
OK, reality check time. Money talks. That’s a fact. Your personal financial situation may dictate that you have to accept something less than your ideal right now. If you must agree to work at a less-than-ideal position and hope to stay just for the short-term, then start planning your exit strategy now. Own it. Otherwise, you might just find yourself in the same, less than suitable job years from now. And that would be pretty tragic for you, given all the hard work you’re doing today to get on the right path.


In Bliss,
Coach Sandy

Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

Achieving Your Childhood Dreams


Carnegie Mellon Professor Randy Pausch gave his last lecture at the university Sept. 18, 2007, before a packed McConomy Auditorium. In his moving presentation, "Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams," Professor Pausch talked about his lessons learned and gave advice to students on how to achieve their own career and personal goals.

Sadly, Professor Pausch passed away recently, after a lengthy battle with pancreatic cancer. Despite his grim diagnosis, or perhaps inspite of it, he managed to inspire millions of us around the world with his poignant, funny and inspiring "last lecture".

I challenge all of you to watch this video without being motivated to positive action in your lives. It's impossible. Prof. Pausch delivered a lasting legacy with this lecture. My thoughts go out to his family and to those who knew and loved him. Rest in peace.




In Bliss,
Coach Sandy

Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

Baby Giggles

I just couldn't resist sharing this video from youtube.com of the funniest laughing baby I have ever seen. Most of you have probably enjoyed this little gem before, along with the other 5.5 million viewers out there in the 'net world. Regardless though, I still think it's worth another viewing - if anything because it makes me giggle out loud everytime I watch it. And in my books, there's no such thing as laughing too little!

Happy giggling!




In Bliss,
Coach Sandy

Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

Blog Launch!

Hey folks!

I’m thrilled to finally be joining the rest of the blogging community on the ‘net!

My hope for this blog is to share with you all the little blissful nuggets that come my way. So, without further ado, here’s a delightful link that was forwarded to me by one of my coaching colleagues today. It instantly brought a smile to my face. But more importantly, it brought home the fact that no matter which part of the world we may find ourselves, we are inarguably connected to others by more commonalities than differences.

It also made me want to put on my dancin’ shoes and travel the world.

Happy dancing!

http://www.vimeo.com/1211060?pg=embed&sec=1211060


In Bliss,
Coach Sandy

Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching