Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Secrets of a Positive Attitude

Are you constantly bombarded by thoughts of negativity? Plagued by feelings of insecurity? Do you see everything in a negative manner? The reason for this lies deep within your heart. You are what you mentally and spiritually eat. If a person drinks alchohol on a daily basis, odds are their body will be affected in some way. They may have liver issues, develop cancer or incur some other type of health problem directly related to the amount of alcohol they have consumed. In the same way, a person who constantly feeds themselves negative thoughts will simply turn into a negative person. This is the time to go on a diet - a diet of positive attitude food. You have to literally stop feeding your mind negative things. Ask yourself, is this thought negative or positive?

What do negative thoughts look like? Well, they start with "can't" rather than "can", "no" as opposed to "yes", "should" instead of "could". One of the biggest challenges we face is that our thoughts have taken us captive. We have begun to let our thoughts control us. A great way to know what we are negative about is to ask those people who are closest to us. You can ask your spouse or another person in your life who really knows you how they would rate your attitude on a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being super positive and 1 being super negative). Ask this person to be totally honest with you. You will benefit from their honesty even if it causes you pain. Ask this person what it is that you specifically say that they perceive as negative. Write down what they say and look at the actual words. Now is the time to be honest with yourself. Those words are a reflection of what is inside you. They are who you are.


The great thing is that you can change. It is as simple as making a choice to do so. You must decide to replace the thoughts of negativity with thoughts of positivity. Decide what negative words you will change to positive ones on paper. Once you have done this, make an conscious effort to insert these new positive thoughts in your mind. You will begin to notice a positive change taking place in your life. Your family, friends and co-workers will all notice it as well. They may not know what is different about you, but they will know that you are not the same person that you were.


The items which are causing negativity in your life could very well be the news, movies, constantly replaying tragedy in your mind and the list could go on and on. Try to eliminate these things from your mind and you'll soon notice a more positive and successful mental health regimen. I've been avoiding nightly news television programs ever since I realized how much negativity with which broadcasters bombard us. Feeding myself thoughts of death from a war or gunshot or car accident, or financial despair from the deepening recession we're facing, will only counteract my very conscious effort to stay positive. I've made the decision to proceed with my own life, to honor it by eliminating negative elements. You can do it too. You do not have to be what you were in the past. You can be different in the future. The choice is yours. I know you will make it a positive one. Here's to much continued positive attitude success!


In Bliss,
Coach Sandy

Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

Sunday, April 19, 2009

First Step To Manifesting Life To The Fullest

Do you know at least one person who seems to make the most of out every situation? Someone who has great success at the act of manifestation (the act or product of bringing about change through the direction of consciousness)? You may even have felt a little jealous of the person because it appears they have everything, seemingly getting these things with minimal effort as though they were born ‘lucky’. Well, it is probably time you understand that the power of manifestation lies within each of us and it is up to you to learn more about it.

Attracting abundance is knowledge. Just like any other skill people have, manifesting is no different. Skills like playing a musical instrument or making gourmet meals require time and commitment to learn and practice. So does the skill of manifesting. How good you get depends on how well you learn the skill and how well you apply it.


Even though some of us are better at certain skills, that doesn't mean the rest of us, with practice, can't improve or even surpass the talent expressed by another. Some seem to have learned it so well that they oftentimes don't even realize how they do it. Manifesting abundance now comes to them so readily that it appears ‘natural’, just as a well trained pianist seems to play the piano without thought or effort. They learn to believe whole-heartedly that they simply deserve something; it is now part of their reality. Those are the ones that seem to be born ‘lucky’. But luck is not how they got there!


So, how can you start on your journey towards manifesting great things for yourself and those you love? Here is the first step – a basic understanding of the ‘Law of Attraction’. Gaining a good understanding of how the "law of attraction" works is the first step in bringing abundance into your life. You can create our own reality. You can attract riches, opportunities and happiness in our life when you learn to focus or attract yourself on them. In order to do this, you must learn to believe and think in a positive way towards those things you seek.


You probably also know at least one person (hopefully not you!), who dwells on the negative and truly will focus on having less. They are attracted to ‘less’ not ‘having more’. When you focus on "I hate my current employment" then you will never notice the aspects of your employment that might be satisfying. You must understand that just wanting something isn't going to bring that to you if you continue to focus on the ‘not having’ of that something. You may have personally experienced that "not having" attitude and learned that it blocked your true desires.

You must learn to focus on a particular item or scenario rather than on vague goals like ‘more cash’ or ‘winning money’. Focusing on winning the lottery, for example, is a fruitless event. Although, through luck, some win lotteries, focusing on winning the lottery is kind of like focusing on "not having." Oddly enough, many who focus on winning naturally dream of what they could do to help others, even though many of those dreams could actually already be done with their current incomes on a smaller scale, but they don't. This is probably because they focus on what they perceive as their ‘not having’ or ‘having so little’. With this attitude, they end up believing that those dreams are only possible by winning the lottery. They are literally afraid to act on their dreams for fear that they do not currently ‘have enough’ to offer. For example, I know several decently paid professionals that repeatedly tell me that they too would really love to sponsor a foster child in another country and they would if they won the lottery. They are afraid that they cannot currently afford $1 a day, as that might leave them short of cash in case of an emergency like an unexpected auto repair. Their focus is on "not enough" rather than being focused on sponsoring a very needy child. When they are focused on "not enough", it won't ever matter how much money they have, it will never be enough.
Just talking about sponsoring a child brought their fears out into the open. It would be great if they could trust that helping a needy third world child would not put them at financial risk. So what I would tell these professionals, who would like to sponsor a child but feel they just cannot, is that they focus on visualizing a starving child being fed by their contribution and perhaps a wonderful letter from that child, complete with a photo to be proudly placed along side other family pictures. This would be a positive image/thought to get that picture to become a reality. Perhaps talk it over with the rest of the family to see what they could do without to create that $1 a day. This is the first step in learning how to manifest their lives.


This same first step will work for all aspects of life from healthy, happy relationships to personal wealth. Is it your turn to make the most of out every situation? Is it your turn for others to see you as ‘lucky’? Does your lack of ability to manifest life leave your soul wounded or lacking? Would you like to learn all the steps to manifest life? You deserve it and it is time to take action!


In Bliss,
Coach Sandy


Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

Saturday, April 18, 2009

17 Important Things To Remember As You Prepare For An Interview


It's important to make a great impression when you go for a job interview, and this includes remaining calm and composed. If you look flustered and nervous, you won't appear confident. Fortunately, it's simple to calm your nerves before you start a job interview. Here's an important checklist as you prepare for that next important event.


Several Days - One Week Before the Interview

1. Spend some time to research the organization and the position at hand. To find company-specific information, visit your local library, run a search on the internet, or talk to current or former employees about their experiences and impressions of the company. Study up on the company's products and services, industry, target market, annual sales, geographic location(s), structure, history, officers, and any other key information. Are there any new trends in the industry?


2. Identify the organization’s major competitors and do some basic research on how they differ (either positively or negatively) from the company at which you are interviewing.


3. Prepare specific examples of how your skills and experience make you a strong fit for the organization’s needs. Practice answering directed questions about your experience, education, and skills and how they relate to the position at hand. Being prepared to draw corollations between your experience and the needs of the organization is one of the most important interviewing skills you will need.


4. Identify your strengths and areas of development. Be prepared to talk about your weaknesses, but find a way to frame them positively. For example, “My biggest weakness is that I am a perfectionist. It may take me a little extra time to get a project done to my satisfaction, but you can be guaranteed that the work will pass even the most stringent review, be 100% accurate, and that no detail will be overlooked.”


5. Prepare several intelligent questions about the company and position that will demonstrate your knowledge of the company and your sincere interest in the position.


6. Try on your suit and make sure that it is still well-fitting and in good repair. If necessary, make arrangements to have it altered or find alternate dress.


The Day before the Interview

1. Contact the company to confirm the date and time of your interview. Also confirm the name and title of the individual(s) you will be meeting.

2. Get directions to the interview site. Be sure to double check the directions using a map. This will ensure that you know the way and also give you an approximate travel time – don’t forget to allow for extra time for rush hour!

3. Lay out your entire interview outfit. Check it for any spot, wrinkles, or snags.

4. Print off a few extra copies of your résumé and cover letter on nice paper. Even if the interviewer has a copy of their own, it’s always a good idea to have a backup copy. This is also helpful if you end up interviewing with multiple individuals, since the head interviewer may be the only person with a copy of your résumé.

Get a good night’s sleep!


1. Your brain needs fuel to run at peak performance and if there is ever a day you needed 110% from your brain, it’s today. So don’t skimp on meals. Be cautious about eating large amounts of carbohydrates right before your interview though, since carbs are know to cause sluggishness and may lead to a “post-lunch” naptime.

2. Get dressed early so you do not feel pressured to dash out the door. Pay attention to the details (brush off any lint, comb your hair, brush your teeth, use deodorant, etc.) and remember that a first impression can reveal a lot about you and your character.

3. Don’t forget to take copies of your résumé, your cover letter, and your portfolio if you have one.

4. Leave yourself plenty of time to get to your interview. If you arrive more than 15 minutes early, it’s best to wait in the car or outside the building. Arriving too early gives off the impression that you have a lot riding on the interview (and have nothing better to do with your time), and also pressures the interviewer(s) into feeling that they have to adjust their schedule to accommodate you.

5.Smile and shake everyone’s hand when you are meeting for the first time - you should also smile and shake hands when the interview concludes.

6. Relax! If you have done your homework, you are well-prepared for the interview. Take a deep breath and spend a moment collecting your thoughts if you need to when being asked a question. If confused about a particular question you are asked, don’t hesitate to ask for clarification.

After the Interview
Write a quick “Thank You” note on nice quality card stock and mail it to the individual(s) who interviewed you.




In Bliss,
Coach Sandy


Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

7 Surprisingly Quick And Easy Ways To Feel Happier


All of us have days when we're out of sorts. You just wish you were in a better mood. You've had days like that, haven't you? Perhaps you tried to get yourself into a better state of mind but struggled to achieve it.

Sometimes we get stuck in our own emotional dumps and forget how easy it is to feel happier, so here are seven simple ways to lift your mood. Many people have found them useful. Some of them may surprise you!


1. Go for a walk.

Most people know that going for a short daily walk is one of the best forms of exercise. When you are feeling down it is even more beneficial. If you can, go into a natural environment with plants and birds. Can you think of such a setting now? What do you notice first? The different shades of greenery, the fresh smell of country air, the sounds of birds, or the sunlight shining through the trees? Make it real by taking a short stroll.

2. Listen to quality music.

Music can shift a listener's state within moments. Its effect can be nearly magical. Dig out that CD you haven't listened to in ages or tune in your radio to something you've never listened to before.


3. Open yourself to discovering something new.

Read something (printed, not online) different than what you would normally read. There are a ton of different types of magazines you can get these days. Visit your local library or browse through a magazine rack. Pick up or buy a magazine you wouldn't normally buy. You may discover something wonderful.

4. Find something to laugh at.

Laughter is one of the best ways to lift your spirits. Find a humorous book, or watch a comedy. Even better, try to learn a few new jokes and tell them to others.

5. Simple breathing meditation.

Breathing meditation is a great exercise that you can do anywhere. Simply allow yourself to sit comfortably with your back straight. Now close your eyes and become aware of the flow of air into and out of your nostrils. That's all there is to it. Do this for 10-15 minutes. Notice how pleasantly surprised you can be at how you feel afterward.

6. Doodling for the fun of it.

Most people can remember when they were young and used to doodle for hours. Kids love drawing silly little pictures. Drawing is not just for kids or artists. Whoever you are, get some pens, pencils, crayons or whatever you have and just draw for the fun of it. Notice how your state of mind shifts.

7. Think of others less fortunate.

The fact that you are reading this article suggests that you are probably much better off than most people on this planet. At times this may be hard to believe, but if you can read and have access to the internet, just those two things alone means you are better off than most people in the world. There are many human beings that barely have access to the basics of survival. There are people in lots of pain. Allow your compassion for them to grow.


These are all pretty simple. There's nothing profound or life changing, but when all you need is a quick pick me up, these may be just the thing you need. Putting simple ideas, methods, tools and techniques into action will help you achieve change more quickly and easily than you imagine.



In Bliss,
Coach Sandy


Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

Monday, April 13, 2009

Britain's Got Talent

Who out there doesn't thoroughly enjoy an underdog story? I know I'm always a sucker for one! Enjoy this feel-good viral video, which proves my theory that you're NEVER too old to find your bliss and follow your dreams... :)



In Bliss,
Coach Sandy

Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

Thursday, April 9, 2009

Sound of Music

This is absolutely BLISSFUL! I only wish I'd been there to join in!




In Bliss,
Coach Sandy

Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching

Monday, April 6, 2009

April's Bliss Bulletin

Hi folks,

I know it's been a while since I've posted something. My apologies, but I have been swamped with wrapping up all the paperwork and homework required for my Adler coaching practicum.

But I'm back now! And I've just published April 2009's Bliss Bulletin, my free monthly e-zine for the busy professional who wants to learn how to better balance her work and family life. You'll get insider secrets and free coaching resources designed to help you achieve a more blissful life. And who doesn't want that?

Enjoying this e-zine? Then why not sign up to be part of the Bliss Community, and you'll automatically receive this monthly goody!



In Bliss,
Coach Sandy

Sandy Kiaizadeh
Find Your Bliss Coaching